We don’t need to fix each other’s problems, but I think we need to share them.
As a counsellor one of the biggest hurdles to learn is that someone else’s problem is not mine to fix. It’s not anyone’s job to fix the problem, unless of course you’re a plumber who is stopping the toilet from clogging, or an electrician coming to stop the circuits from tripping. When it comes to everyday heart challenges, it’s not my responsibility to fix your problems. It’s my responsibility to fix my problems and no one else’s. I know that this is not just a challenge for counsellors, I see it everyday with family, friends, colleagues and clients.
So if you feel that you need to fix someone else’s problem – Take heart in the fact you are not alone.
I get it! It’s easier some days to ignore the problem than face it head on and make some choices to help fix the problem. Ignoring a problem will only prolong the challenge of it. Ignoring the problem can be a very good coping mechanism. Coping mechanisms are not designed to be used forever, they are an integral part of the healing (or fixing) process and need to only used for a short period of time.
Whose problems do you feel like you need to fix?
Whose problems can you fix?
Fixing other people’s problems is not helpful, in fact I think it adds to the problem. What is helpful is sharing our problems and challenges with other people; something we don’t do enough of in our society. The journey is better together. We all have challenges and problems that need fixing. There are many times when I just want someone else to fix my problem, and I also know that that is rarely helpful. What is helpful is having a cuppa or skype with my bestie and sharing the challenges. I am encouraged and humbled by the fact that I’m not the only one having challenges and looking for ways to fix my problem.
Take a stand. Choose to focus on fixing your own problems and leave the other problems to those who can only fix them. Instead, share your challenges with people close to you and also listen non-judgementally to their challenges. We can all do with a little more sharing of the load than adding to the load.
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